How to avoid garbage-dumping in arguments
When we bring up things from the past to add to the heap, we generate extra anger, shame, and resentment that we may have been able to avoid.
When we bring up things from the past to add to the heap, we generate extra anger, shame, and resentment that we may have been able to avoid.
When you pay more attention to your inner emotional experiences and accept whatever comes up, you will find it easier to give yourself support and nurturance.
If someone consistently makes you feel frustrated, upset, or bad about yourself, it’s time to honor and protect yourself.
It is a couple’s communication pattern, or their approach to dealing with their differences, that is often holding them back.
So much of our suffering comes from the gap between the way our life is and the way we think things should be– including other people.
To live mindfully, we must be present to our living, breathing loved ones beside us in this moment.
Like with most things in life, the more you put into couples therapy, the more you’ll get out.
The middle ground between selfishness and selflessness is self-care: recognizing and responding to your needs and the needs of others.